Resetting
Day 8
The gerund (ing) shows that the process is ongoing.
When you are on a mission you need support from everyone around you to enable you. This becomes crucial especially if you don’t want to depend on your willpower battery. That is the only way to increase your probability of success. Yes, It can happen all by yourself but it will be an uphill journey.
A lesson in human nature here. Work with yourself so you have all the conviction to go all the way. Work with others so they believe in your conviction. You need to sell your purpose and conviction to people around you who are your well-wishers (we have a 24/7 sales job called life isn’t it 🙈) .
The environment adjustment takes longer than usual as working with human beliefs and values is messy. This is where we give up and get back to normalcy as typically our environment wins.
Yesterday mom made something I love and she called me specifically and said don’t worry about your bowls today. I have made this excellent dish with some sides. It was her enthusiasm to make something awesome. It is a truck load of rice and some deep fried sides. Ideally a no no for someone who is trying to lose weight. I just could not say no to her because she did not allow me. I could have gone ahead and said I don’t care what you have made I am not going to have this. I have the will to say that today given the public commitment but the consequence of saying that is a lot more on her mental wellness. I need to manage the after effects of that. This is typical bonding in a close knit Indian family. Not sure if this is the case otherwise. A good problem to have actually. Sounding like a jerk is not an option in our families. Period. assertiveness with some niceties is a must.
So I have to solve this problem from the core and not from the fringes. The boundaries need to be made clear to the environment as well. I need to allow some freedom for them as well to play with. Articulating this is gonna be a challenge for sure.
For my context with 3-4 master chefs around I have to implement something stronger.
It is the same bowl method but by new plan the boundaries are tightened in terms of time and quantity within that time. Just to avoid food at odd hours I am adding kriya yoga because I need to be on an empty stomach to do the kriya. what an excuse that will be 😝 Everyone at home understands that part strangely.
So here is how the reset is planned: morning and evening kriyas and food between 5-8 pm only. That pushes me into OMAD and a ton of water. If not for this tight boundaries my family is never going to understand what am I trying to do. My long standing eating disorder needs to be empathised by me as well else my body will go bonkers.I need less cognitive load to deal with. Not more. Balance is something I can’t achieve ever in my family 🤷♀️ That is my context and there is no point fighting it.
Solve problems at the core. Our body is a magnificent machine and it adjusts naturally.
This is why I didn’t care to track yesterday as I was wondering what attributes to adjust to make it easy on everyone around.
While the clarity of the plan is super good, it is gonna be hard on me for a few days (may be 21 days) but I am hoping it will settle down. These 21 days I have to guard it else it will go kaput.
Did I not know about my family before? Ofcourse I know them I have done this 5 times so far. It is a typical adjusting phase and everyone of us will go through this adjustment. Stay strong. Keep solving. This disruption is common.
I am gonna have a long coffee chat today with everyone at home and ask for their support. Hope that goes well 🤞
🥂to nuances!
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